Asked if she discovered penning ‘Love In The Dark’ from her debut album, ‘Before Love Came To Kill Us’, like remedy to write, she instructed Coup De Main journal: “Not really. It’s just for a second, of how I feel at the time, but when I listen back to music, it’s nice when it’s a song that’s full of love, like how ‘Love In The Dark’ is full of love.
“But it isn’t that when it is darker songs.
“I can’t listen to my song ‘Cotton Candy’ all the way through because when I do it’s like I’m digging my finger into a f***ing scab that’s not healed yet, so my heart just sinks.
“So there’s songs that I can do it with and songs that I can not.”
The 28-year-old Beyonce-approved singer – whose biggest inspiration is the late Amy Winehouse – also admitted that the most challenging part of the healing process is not rubbing old wounds.
Jessie also admitted she had the wrong idea of what “love” is, and added that she feels it’s important to put her health first instead of reminding herself of past heartbreak.
Asked what the hardest part of getting over hurting is, she shared: “Not choosing the scab. It’s so exhausting. It’s so exhausting not to choose the scab.
“I feel like I have the wrong perception of what love is; I had this wrong idea of what love is supposed to be.
“So, for me personally, when I’m making an attempt to heal, it is simply exhausting not to choose my scab.
“If you know that you have a picture of somebody that you know is going to hurt you, why would you look at it?
“But typically it is exhausting for me not to look.
“I feel like maybe other people go through that too.
“But if you happen to suppose that you really want to see it, in actuality, you simply maintain onto ache as a result of it is the one factor of that individual that you’ve left – however that is not doing you any good, simply because you don’t need to let go of the ache to let go of the individual.
“So I think the hardest thing is understanding that you got to put your health as a priority, more than picking a scab just so that you can stay close to the time in your life that you might miss.”